Francis Chan has a challenge for the church, and it’s sure to hit you right where God needs it to.
Chan explains this cultural change in the American church where married couples and mothers have become so focused on their own families and building up their own future, that they abandon the mission of God.
He constricts in on things he saw with adherents of his generation: When they were young and single, they were on fire for the mission of God. They were ready and willing to do radical things that would further the kingdom of paradise. The change that has just taken place was when they married and began having newborns, they became more focused on building up their family instead of being willing to take the same hazards to fulfill the mission.
Chan goes on to reference 1 Corinthians 7, where Paul calls those who are married to essentially live as though they are not. Those who are now single are more determined to answer their calling than those who are family-focused.
And isn’t this the case more often than not?
Your mission with the Lord isn’t done when you’re finished dating. But bring kids into the mix, and there’s this sense of contentment. The mentality typically goes, “Yeah, maybe God has plans to use us there, but the kids — they have a school and pals, and a life HERE. We’ll focus on them while they’re young, and once they’re age-old enough or moved out, we can return to ministry.”
But it’s this inward focus that ultimately lets our family to become an idol to us. We live what Chan calls “a Christian version of the American dream.” But that’s not the life that God has called us to, and that’s not the instance of religion that it is necessary to determining for our children.
“Your children are missing out on life when you do that. That’s why so many of the kids when they turn 18, they just ditch God wholly — because they didn’t see anything real in your life.”
Chan claims that this non-Scriptural mindset mothers adopt is why a lot of kids ditch God when they are adults. As they grow, they don’t see anything real in the faith-life of their parents.
“Not only are you missing out on life, but we are turning away our children by the droves because “peoples lives” are not the adventure they see in Scripture and they are not experiencing the Holy Spirit.”