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When a cis person wants to have sex with a trans female, they often returning a ton of delusions and impolite curiosities into the area: How did you get so soft and smooth? Are your breasts real? Did the surgery give you hips? Since you have a dick, you like doing anal, right?
If you’re like me, such issues are tiring. I want to have sex , not play Trans Sex Ed 101. But I get why these stories come up time and time again. In Western culture, we assume that the most default , normal, and human sex experience is penis-in-vagina piercing. This is treated as the gold standard, and trans figures live in its darknes. The presumption is that a penis, by its sheer reality, must be put into something for copulation to happen.
This isn’t true, of course. But if you’ve grown up in national societies that tell me something sex involves a cis soul fucking a cis woman, it’s easy to believe that’s the best way to have sex. Trans copulation challenges that. And if you’re interested in a trans wife, you owe it to her to learn a little more about trans forms before grabbing coffee, let alone before taking off her clothes.
To combat the knowledge gap, I requested trans females to tell me the most difficult fallacies they’ve come across; I fielded questions from tribes who don’t determine as trans ladies; and I tackled some of the stories I’ve come across in my own sex life. Below are some of the more common myths and outright lies that trans girls face in their copulation lives.
Myth: We look feminine because of surgery
Everyone assumes that my breasts and curves are from surgery.
— Katelyn Burns (@ transscribe) March 18, 2019
This is easily one of the most common stories trans women experience both in and out of the bedroom. TV proves acquire trans girls follow out a” copulation change surgery” that swiftly alters our organizations. Just sign the waiver and get a brand-new face, perky boob, vagina transplant, and an amazing ass.
Of course, that’s total bullshit.
Most medical regimen start with hormone substitution care , not surgery, and HRT takes time. Trans women in the U.S. typically take estradiol and spironolactone–an estrogen steroid hormone and an antiandrogen, respectively. If you don’t remember high school biology, hormones are like “messengers” moving through the body, mailing signals to receptors in order to influence DNA transcription. In this case, estradiol initiates estrogen receptors in the body while spironolactone squelches testosterone creation. Regardless of sex, our figures have the ability to receive these instructions.
As more estrogen is received within the body, it causes see physical changes. Some different forms of feminization happen instantly. Others take years. Here are all the ways my torso changed during my first year on HRT, in chronological order 😛
Softer, thinner surface
Pupils grew bigger
Sweat reeked fewer and more feminine
Hair grew less wavy, thinner
Muscle mass plunged
Breasts began to develop
Penis’ skin softened, grew difficult to reach a full erection, and ejaculate became a clear discharge
Body hair turned thinner, flourished slower, and appeared more feminine
Fat started to redistribute around the hips and rear, among other places