My son was locked out of the house yesterday, in the middle of a snowstorm.
He called me at work to ask me to drive home and let him in. Nothing of the neighbours we knew were home, and the neighbours across the street are brand new. So he had nowhere to go.
When I told my co-workers that I was leaving because my son was locked out, one mentioned that they used to ascent in a window, or pry the door open with a debit card, when they were locked out. And my reply was, “I can’t tell < strong> my son to do that”.
My son is African-American and he’s fourteen years old .</ strong>
When we go shopping after school, I tell my son he has to leave his backpack in the car.
When he’s hungry in the convenience store and recognizes customers dine nutrient they’ve yet is payable for, I tell him he can’t do the same.
When he wants to take a walk past dark with his sidekicks, I tell him “no”.
If he bounces a ball in the sporting goods storage, I construct him stop.
He’s not allowed to play with guns that aren’t clearly Super Soakers.
If we’re stopped by the police because our headlight is out, I say, “Remember what I learnt you.”
Because my son is African American and he’s fourteen years old .</ strong>
When my son couldn’t get in the house, he strolled down wall street to the local drugstore, to seek refuge from the relentless snow.
I drove to the drugstore as fast as I could and when I was near, I called to let him know I’d be there soon. I proposed he stay inside until I arrived, but when I got there he was out in the snow.
When he got in the car, shivering and wet, I asked why he didn’t wait inside.
His reply was, “Mom. The people who work there keep staring at me and following me around. It was like they speculated I was going to steal something. I felt like I didn’t belong there. It was awful. And I had no fund on me to prove I wasn’t a thief.”
Because my son is African American and he’s fourteen years old, he can’t exactly has become a teenager patronize for acne cream. He has to make a purchase to prove he’s not a bandit .</ strong>
Those who know me will tell you that I’m not one to pretension every hassle with the police is police barbarism. And I’m not one who visualizes racism in every unique clause of decorator clothing or every news anchor’s slip of the tongue.
But I do recollect moving to a nice vicinity as a child, and being[ awakened] during the course of its night by a cross burning in the front yard and the “N” word carved into the fresh cement sidewalk who have contributed to our front opening. And I remember the tacks in our tires, every morning when mommy tried to leave for work.
I remember the neighbours staring at us like we didn’t belong. And I remember, for our security, momma were to say things that other moms didn’t have to tell their children.
Yes. That was over[ 40] years ago. That was then and this is now. But just because you’re uncomfortable talking about it, doesn’t represent it no longer exists.
Accept it. Talk about it. Change it .</ strong> And don’t get caught outside in a snowstorm.
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