Studying to become a writer, I was pretty much spawned to avoid cliches. But, despite my professors’ tireless to seek ways to engrave this dogma into my psyche, I still can’t are likely to sway the thought that everything, does in fact , happen for a reason.
Truth be told, I consider myself to be a firm disciple in this statement–an advocate, even.
But, I’ve noticed that any time I have applied this tired credo as an instrument of reassurance to sidekicks who’ve are located in less-than-favorable situations, I am generally faced with a “ you have to say that, you’re my friend , ” or worse yet, “ I don’t buy into that because everyone is in charge of their own fates .</ i> ”
Well, condone my not-so-subtle eye-roll to all of you go-getters who are trying to urgently carve out future developments, but allow the realist in me to abound your bubble when I tell you that you cannot program future developments .
I’ve stroked this topic before; the whole idea that life may — ahem, is * going to throw you curveballs–and believe me when I tell you I am no contestant. However, I feel confident in saying that I have mastered the art of overcoming the calamities my life has pelted at me with little to no sporting abilities. And if you’re wondering what my secret is, it’s that I know that everything happens for a ground .
I wishes also to oblige the disclaimer that if something shitty happens to me, I don’t simply immediately shrug my shoulders and say, “Eh, everything happens for a reason, am I right? ” I think that people who use it in that sense utilization it as a cop-out of sorts.
I was of the view that I don’t say “everything happens for a ground, ” until I am able to reflect on past happenings in my life and am rightfully able to understand why certain things play around the course that they did–until I can understand what the’ ground’ really is.
So to anyone who doesn’t buy into this cliche, well of course you wouldn’t. Because you cannot understand why your life has brought you to where you are if you haven’t found out what the reason is yet.
Take me for example. A little over a year ago, I felt myself in a situation that I wanted no part of. I was pissed, disorient and admittedly, a little fright. Something that was completely out of my authority was about to remodel my life. A few scorching dialogues, cuss words and hasty decisions afterwards, I was finally able to see the reason </ b> behind what happens in my life.
I was angry at life for throwing a wrench in my programmes because I( at the time) interpreted no benefit from what was about to happen. One years later, it purposed up being the most wonderful thing that happened to not only me, but my entire clas. A situation that initially was tearing my family apart purposed up bringing all of us even closer.
It’s like that mention that people are constantly misattributing to Marilyn Monroe: “Things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Damn–did I exactly shed another cliche in here?
Anyways, it’s true.
I’m not going to lie, it can take a good chunk of time for these’ reasons, ’ to arise. But when they do, it moves certain situations, problems and life calamities seem so clear.
And from past knowledge, I understand that it’s difficult to see in the moment, but maybe every breakup, every relapse, and every indiscretion that has happened or is happening to you really is happening for a reason–to lead you to something even better.