My husband and I were listening to an audiobook on our road journey last nighttime, and somewhere along the way, the author spoke on how all the great pleasures he enjoyed were a endowment from God. My spouse chuckled and was quick to tell me that when pondering on his great pleasure committed from God he immediately thought about sex. Of course, he did!
As parents to three small daughters, we had to fight to make time for this great pleasure, but fight we did! We enjoyed that part of our relationship, and as we agreed together that it was a beautiful gift from God for spouses, I remembered this post I wrote about four years ago. So I decided to republish it for my new readers. This post is write from a wife’s point of view to other spouses, as that is what I am. But some humankinds might find useful information here as well.
You don’t typically read those two terms together, do you? Sexuality and Christian. Sex isn’t typically a topic that is readily discussed in circles amongst Christians unless it is to inform on the don’ts of sexuality. What I mean is unless someone is instructing you on what not to do regarding sex as a Christian then you typically won’t hear much else. This is because the subject of enjoying sex is pretty taboo. But my question is why exactly?
I believe sex to be a gift from God, and when performed within the guidelines set forth in scripture, I think you can enjoy it. A lot!
You don’t have to see sex as taboo, but instead as a beautiful act to be enjoyed. Even as a Christian.
Realize that sexuality is not perverted. Let’s start with the basics. To enjoy sex you need to know that it’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing.
I do believe in the Biblical educations regarding it. I believe sex is a gift for a husband and wife to enjoy in their wedding. While the act of procreation is wonderful in growing a family there is also a lot of enjoyment to be had. But first, you need to remember that sex isn’t taboo. It’s beautiful.
The world has perverted sexuality, but sex in itself is not debased. God made sexuality. The physical act brings enjoyment and pleasure due to not just emotional well-being, but likewise due to physiological stimulation. To put it simply, God made our bodies to feel the pleasure of sexuality. But sometimes a mindset that sex is taboo or perverted can prevent you from truly enjoying the act physically.
Just be said that God devoted man and woman the gift of sexual friendship. He consecrated it from the beginning. A husband and wife become members flesh through this beautiful covenant.
Understand that sex is not a chore. What’s the key to enjoying sex with your spouse? Wanting to enjoy it.
Sex between a married couple is a style to spend time alone, intimately connecting with the person you adoration. It’s an act of becoming one, where your being binds with another. And it’s fun too.
While it’s not a chore, it’s also not a weapon. Continue this in mind.
1 Corinthians 7:5
“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Woman have many tasks to perform in the home. Do yourself a favor, and don’t belief sex with your spouse as merely another chore. While duties and responsibilities is to your spouse, guess what? His responsibility is also to you.
No man really craves their spouse to just be there, suffering sex because they must. Men want you to enjoy it too. Stop faking your orgasm, and start becoming determined to have one for real.
Which results me to this advice.
Let run, focus, and enjoy yourself! Be honest girls. How many times, well after the honeymoon is over, have you been in bed with your spouse in torso, but your head is elsewhere? It’s like you’re laying there thinking about all those things you have left on your to-do list.
Do you know what your husband is thinking about? Sex. Your husband is thinking about sexuality. How unjust that you’re left thinking, did the trash get taken to the road ?</ em> Well, stop moving!
You is not merely owe it to your spouse, but you owe it to yourself to let it go. Let move of every reckon other than the moment at hand. Not merely will your spouse enjoy it more if you’re present in body and psyche, but so will you.
If you focus your thoughts on making love to your spouse, you will be amazed[ at] how much more enjoyable the act can be. You may find satisfaction that you didn’t think was possible anymore, or never knew existed.
I’d likewise encourage you to be sexy. I’m not just talking about used to go and buying lingerie. This is not just a physical metamorphosi, but it’s also a mental one. And it’s for your spouse too.
I want you to take the time, find the time to construct yourself feel attractive. I have small children, but I still shave every day. I wear nice clothes and make-up for my husband. I do this even if I’m not leaving the house.
Do I do this for him? Well, various kinds of, but it’s likewise for me. I know my husband wouldn’t care if I was still in my pajamas. He loves me regardless. But two things happen when I take the time to cultivate my appearing. One, I feel pretty. Two, even if he doesn’t say a word, he notices. He notices I take the time to be fairly for him.
He then realizes I do this because I still want to are set forth the effort to be sexy for him. He deserves that. Subsequently, I feel lovely to myself also.
But being sexy moving beyond the outer appearing. I crave you to focus on seem sexy. A woman’s aging torso after childbirth may not be the world’s standard of sexy, but that shouldn’t falsify your wedlock bed.
Pray about this. Concentrate on feeling sexy when having sex. Your spouse sees you sexy. That’s one of the reasons why they desire you sexually. Belief that you are. A confident female is a sexy woman.
Also, be proactive in procuring your spouse to be sexy. A man changes over the years likewise, but we as ladies change with them. Our ideals ripen. Don’t let your man think you don’t find him attractive. Compliment him. You’ll find that this is a reciprocal relationship of seeing each other sexy.
Lastly, pray about sexuality. A lot of you will find this odd, or you may find it uncomfortable to pray about sex. Gasp!
Remember, sex is beautiful. It’s not debased. It’s a gift. Don’t you think God wants you to enjoy the endowment of sexuality He has given you and your spouse?
If you are having trouble enjoying sex, focusing on the act of love-making in the middle of it, or having a disconnect with your spouse sexually, then I want you to pray about it. Heck, you are able to even pray when you start.
Ask God to help you focus on your spouse, to enjoy this intimacy with him. Ask God to help heighten your pleasure of the act. Ask Him to help clear your head of any outside affects from the devil that wants to take your head off the pleasure of sex with your spouse. Yes, the devil wishes to destroy your marital bed. Don’t let him. Pray against it.
This might sound crazy, but I want you to try it. I really think you’ll notice a difference almost immediately.
The most important thing is to remember that sex is enjoyable, and it’s supposed to be. Your body belongs to your husband, and his torso belong to you. Share this gift with one another. And the more the very best!
Song of Solomon 7:6 -1 2
6 How beautiful and pleasant you are, O loved one, with all your delights !</ em>
7 Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters .</ em>
8 I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the smell of your breath like apples ,</ em>
9 and your mouth like best available wine .</ em>
It goes down smoothly for my beloved, slipping over lips and teeth .</ em>
10 I am my beloved’s, and his passion is for me .</ em>
11 Come, my beloved, let us go out into the fields and lodge in the villages ;</ em>
12 let us go out early to the vineyards and see whether the vines have budded, whether the grape flowers have opened and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love .</ em>
( In this post I am omitting any physical difficulties that avoid sex enjoyment. Please feel comfortable to discuss these issues with your doctor ).