I’ve had my fair share of “herpes daunts, ” one of which led to me dragging my friends into a table bathroom so they could watch me spread my ass buttock and scrutinize my literal butthole for lumps. In my justification, that area are very difficult to get a good look at with a hand mirror. Anyway, these instances ever intention the same: my friends assured me I was fine, I went and get tested at the local clinic, and then two weeks and 5 000 panic attack later, I was told that my results came back negative. Every time, your best friend reminded me that “of course” I didn’t have herpes. I use condoms and herpes was a big, bad thing that didn’t simply happens to anyone. But then one nighttime, I transported an unbelievably graphic photo of the inside of my labia to a sidekick questioning her if she thought it was the herp, as you do, and she admonished me to proceed get tested ASAP. She didn’t seem as convinced as usual, but she still assured me that I was “probably fine.” I went through the usual process, but it quickly became more and more clear that this time was different. Sure enough, when my answers came back…they were positive. And here’s the thing: I had use condoms. As it turns out, herpes can just happen to anyone, and TBH it’s not even a big or bad deal. Sorry for is just so cold but like, herpes is supes common and doesn’t even affect my health. I’ll tell you more about this by the end of the essay, but so as to not deter you wholly on the edge of your sit, the answer is yes, I still f* ck.
Not to be a bitch, but more than one in six Americans has genital herpes. And oral herpes is even more common. More than 50% percent of Americans have oral herpes, although people seem to care less about this. Oral herpes is “just cold sores, ” and hitherto genital herpes is “social suicide.” But the truth is, they are almost identical viruses. In reality, the virus I have is HSV-1, which is associated with oral herpes, but it activated on my gennies( I will be can be attributed to my genitals as gennies to make this more fun ). This signifies I perhaps got HSV-1 when someone with oral herpes went down on me.
HSV-2 is the virus that is referred to as genital herpes, and it’s not entirely identical in its makeup to HSV-1, but it’s fairly damn close. Both viruses can show up on your mas as sores, although both often do not show up at all. Approximately 80% of people with genital herpes never notice any symptoms, either since they are don’t get any, or because they are so mild they don’t realize what they are. This is part of why herpes is so common: most people who have it don’t realise they do, so they transmit unknowingly( so it’s actually far less likely to get herpes from someone like me, since I know I have it and can therefore take the necessary precautions to not spread it. Just as a like, PSA re: f* cking me ).
On top of this, most standard STD tests don’t include a herpes exam. If you’re thinking “WTF ??, ” you and I have something in common. The CDC doesn’t recommend testing people without symptoms for herpes, which doctors may tell you is because they assume the stigma of having herpes is greater than the health risks, so unless you need to treat symptoms, there’s actually “no point” in testing you. This is what one of my sex partner’s physician told her after I intimated she exit get experimented when I received my diagnosis. Of direction, telling people lives in “ignorant bliss” by not testing the 80% of the persons with herpes who don’t have symptoms merely leads to the virus being spread more. But according to doctors, this is to stop people from dealing with the stigma. So let’s talk about the stigma, shall we?
The first thing I did when my gynecologist “ve told me” I have herpes was openly cry on the street of New York. Then I got blackout wino. You know, the usual two-step process to hearing bad news. But I soon learned that herpes isn’t that bad, at least physically. My doctor prescribed an antiviral capsule, which I can take daily so as to prevent outbreaks and decline the the possibilities of dissemination. With these meds, plus the implementation of its condoms, medical doctors “ve told me” there is about a 1% opportunity of me giving herpes to someone during sexual contact, so long as I’m not suffering an outbreak( sores ). I’m not great at math( I’m hot ), but I can tell those fortunes are like, genuinely low-grade. My doctor assured me that even if I ever suffer another outbreak, it will never be as bad as the first one. Outbreaks are less severe and less common over day. Plus, after doing some research online, I learned that these kinds of herpes I have–HSV-1 on my gennies–makes outbreaks even less likely. HSV-1 is a less aggressive virus than HSV-2, and it’s likely I’ll never “ve got another” outbreak again. I literally may never check another sore on my lil gennies, and it’s very unlikely that I’ll transmit the virus to anyone else. So what’s the big cheese then? Stigma, that’s what.