Carl Jung once was of the view that “Until you make the unconscious self-conscious, it will aim your life and you will call it fate.” And this statement could not be truer when it comes to the Enneagram of Personality– a nine-point personality system that explains which subconscious anxieties and motives are driving our decisions, and therefore subtly shaping our lives.
The Enneagram is anything but a rose-colored personality inventory. It delves into the deepest, murkiest truths of our nature and explains why we often find these problems cropping up, over and over again in life.
On some level, all of us are unknowingly creating difficulties for ourselves. In reality, we’re often downright sabotaging our own lives without recognise it. And based on your Enneagram type, here’s how you’re doing precisely that 😛 TAGEND
Type 1- The more you try to suppress your wrath through perfectionism, the more angry you become at yourself for falling short.
The paradox of the 1 character is that they’re constantly attempting to suppress their inherent impressions of indignation by setting moral the criteria for themselves and those around them to live up to.
However, the more they strive for moral perfection, the more they end up falling short( since perfection is an unrealistic target ), and the imperfect nature of themselves and the world around them terminates up becoming just another source of indignation for the 1.
Until the 1 kind learns to acknowledge and oversee their repressed rage, this kind are continually be recreating patterns of wrath and annoyance in their own lives.
Type 2- You’re searching so desperately for acceptance that you end up driving people away.
The paradox of the 2 kind is that they strive to become indispensable to others so that others will desire and accept them- but the more urgently they strive for validation, the less genuine they seem, and therefore the more they end up driving people away.
Until the 2 form learns to be comfortable alone, they will continuously struggle to maintain meaningful relationships with those around them, because their intense need for validation will ultimately be what makes people wary of getting too close to them.
Type 3- You believe you won’t be loved until you’re perfect so you repudiate desire when it comes your way, in favor of chasing perfection.
The paradox of the 3 type is that they fear no one will enjoy them until they’re highly achieved- nonetheless, they will often turn away enjoy if it comes their behavior in favour of pursuing more accomplishments.
This type is constantly being find themselves alone in life, unless and until they learn to let others accept them as they are- that is, as a continuous work in progress, rather than a finished masterpiece.
Type 4- You’re so afraid of being average that you forgo the hard work and humility it takes to become exceptional.
The paradox of the 4 kind is that they’re so scared of being average and uninteresting that they sabotage their chances of becoming exceptional by refusing to engage in the’ cliche’ behaviours it would take to get there.
While this type possess the intelligence, imagination and drive to succeed and inspire the masses, they would rather be a tragic failure than a moderate success- so instead of shooting for the moon( and risking ending up as just one more median sun ), they remain stuck in the gutter, that are able to at the least reassure themselves that if they try, they’d be far more impressive than everyone else who’s out there trying.
Type 5- You’re so afraid of acting without adequate knowledge or experience that you forgo the valuable lessons you can only learn through experience.
The paradox of the 5 type is that they only want to act once they have examined a given issue from every slant- and yet there are certain angles that can only be experienced through trial and error. Therefore, the 5′ s unwillingness to act is often the exact thing keeping them in the dark.
This type will continue to find themselves paralyzed unless and until they learn to make peace with acting before they are 100% in the know- and trusting that the answers will follow.
Type 6- You invest so much hour preparing for the worst-case scenario that you leave yourself no time or energy to engage the best-case scenario.
The paradox of the 6 kind is that they expend so much better period preparing things to go wrong that they often find themselves altogether unprepared for things to go Believing that most things are’ too good to be true ,’ the 6 form subconsciously rejects many wonderful opportunities, which demonstrates their underlying notion that things will not work out in their favor.
The 6 type will continue to find themselves in a cycle of preparing for and then experiencing the worst, unless and until they learn to trust that things can also go right.
Type 7- You expend so much day chasing toward the good things in life that you run right past the great things on your way.
The paradox of the 7 character is that they invest so much day trying to avoid their inner emptiness by chasing after exultation and excitement that they operate right past the things that would actually fulfill them in a meaningful lane in life. They may never pause long enough to sort deep relationships, succeed at a long-standing programme or establish a deep-rooted community.
These kinds will continue to feel restless unless and until they realize that their hedonistic propensities are much like a junk food diet- fulfill in the moment of indulging but direly unhealthy and unsatisfying in the long run.
Type 8- You constantly suspect the most difficult in people, which aims up bringing out the most difficult in people.
The paradox of the 8 is that their inherent mistrust of others prevents them from establishing trusting relationships- which means that the people in their lives become as untrustworthy as the 8 panics them to be.
This type will continue to find themselves feeling slighted by others unless and until they learn to see best available in and trust others in the first place. Doing so makes the people in their lives feel valued and respected, and induces them want to prove the 8 right about their choice to trust them (“,” right ?)
Type 9- You’re so desperate to maintain peace that your passiveness objective up becoming a source of frustration.
The paradox of the 9 type is that they fear conflict so intensely that their unwillingness to take a posture can become a source of conflict in and of itself. When this type experiences a determine of conflicting lusts, they dread facing the conflict head-on and may avoid it until it becomes a much greater conflict than it needed to be.
This type knows where to find themselves continuously facing conflict unless and until they learn to snip it in the bud and assert themselves before a dedicated issue spiralings out of control.